There will always be more to do than time allows to accomplish tasks and to handle continual demands. With the advancement of technology and instant communication, we live in a world where it has become difficult to maintain personal boundaries. Learning how to say no to others and yes to yourself may not be easy. However, when you accept the fact that you have the right to set boundaries, you will begin to simplify your life.
A simple life is one that avoids over commitments. When someone (or yourself) puts demands upon your time, your space or your possessions, stop for a moment and take a deep breath. Make your pause instinctive, habitual. Take a moment to think about the consequences of saying yes too quickly.
- Is this something you really want to do or have?
- Do you have the time, money and energy to do it and/or take care of it?
- Do you say yes just to please others?
There are many ways to say no without hurting people’s feelings. You can simply state that you do not have the time, money or energy to do it now. Most of the time it is not necessary to express a reason or a solution. Sometimes it is better to simply say no without the need to justify your decision. Remember, it is your life and you have the right to set boundaries.
Reclaim your life, peace of mind and sanity by respecting yourself as much as you respect others and by respecting your time as much as you respect the time of others.
“A good place to start when managing your time is to reduce the number of things you do in your work and your personal life. Continually trim your “To Do” list.” Harold Taylor